I discovered that whenever I was struggling, I was also out of connection.

If I was struggling with my relationship, I’d lost connection with my partner.

If I was struggling with sales, I was out of connection with my customer.

If there were office politics, I’d lost connection with my team.

If I was struggling with bad habits, I was out of connection with myself.

Through continued experiments, it slowly dawned on me:

The first step of solving any problem was to get back into connection.

The more I stayed in connection, the less I struggled.

Now, not all problems are caused by a lack of connection. Sometimes problems are caused by incidents outside our control. But… the struggling I did around the problem always stemmed from me moving out of connection. And often it was this struggling and lack of connection that then caused the next sequence of problems.

The thing about struggling is that it is a tremendous waste of effort.

It is wildly inefficient, and not enjoyable at all.

I began to think there must be another way, and to experiment with struggling less and staying more connected. While this was counterintuitive at first, I discovered that remarkably, the less I struggled and the more connected I was able to stay, the more I could get done.

It was more enjoyable to do, and I accomplished more.

And what I accomplished was more in line with my truth.

When you are in connection with yourself and others, both joy and achievement come easily and effortlessly.

Our accomplishments, love life, business, family, and more are all based on the quality of our relationships.

And when we create depth with ourselves and others, all aspects of life transform.